Wishing for You

Not a tsunami –
But gentle laps upon the sand –
As your journey begins –



We parents were watching our children’s soccer game. “Your son should smile more,” another mother instructed me. “He’s autistic,” came my deflective response. I hadn’t planned the quick untruth but it made me smile, and later, giggle.

To Speak or Not?

Some seem tone deaf to the ring of truth as they speak.
Is it that they believe their own words?
Perhaps they chatter without forethought of whether their words carry truth.

Careful speakers may be taken for sullen and silent.
Their lack of chatter may be assumed to be something it is not.
They offer the unfiltered thoughts in their mind, rather than be misinterpreted.
Some may call this brutal honesty.

Slavic Pool-Mates

Eastern Europeans in general seem to especially value the pool and spa.  They enjoy it as a family pastime, teach their children to swim at a young age, even use it as a social opportunity and meet friends there.  It fits in with their active lifestyle.  I hear their beautiful language and the young ones alternating between English and their parents native language, without missing a beat.  Fathers especially like to come with their three year-olds who swim like fish.  They also tend to linger over it.  The children are well-mannered and parents stay with their children and they play together.  Father swims laps carrying the wee one on his back.  Sometimes mother arrives later and takes the children home to feed them supper and put them to bed while father finishes his swim.  And they always swim in a steady, quiet, clean, and non-splashing manner.


We decided to test drive the Kia Soul with 45 minutes until closing. Luckily the dealership is in our hometown. The salesman inquired – are you familiar with the roads? We assured him without much of a brouhaha and off we went. I turned left off of Route 28 in West Yarmouth. It is a grid after all. Two additional turns and we were lost! We landed on a dirt road with a deep-looking puddle. Now we were just beginning to put the new car through its paces…

Question whether to use the new tool, the back up camera, to reverse down the narrow dirt road the 300 feet we traveled? Or best to inch our way through the outskirts of the puddle, being careful not to splash and hopefully not fall off the edge of the earth…

What would you do?

Room for One More


Downtown Hyannis is a mecca for the homeless.  There are bus services and social services, including the only overnight shelter for adults on Cape Cod, all within walking distance for most.  Social services also include transitional assistance, Social Security Administration, unemployment, disability services, legal aid, community action, soup kitchens, thrift shops, food pantries, Red Cross, Catholic Social Services, the Immigration Center, federal health clinics, clinics for treating addiction, etc.  There are a fair number of rooms for rent and lesser expensive hotel rooms off-season.  In the winter especially, one can easily spot those without permanent abodes.

When driving through routinely, one may even come across the same individuals over and over again.  One man carries a long-hike backpack.  I remember him because he looks Asian and that is fairly uncommon.  He wears a bulky green army jacket, construction boots and glasses.  He has a long Fu Manchu.  I have seen him walking Main Street on the many trips through on my way to the pool.

Recently, I saw him outside at the parking lot of my pool.  The next time I saw him inside, then exiting the building.  Today, I almost didn’t recognize him poolside.  It was the first time I saw him without the bulky winter coat.  He is razor-thin, I’d guess about 90 pounds.  He wore jeans, a long-sleeve shirt, bright yellow suspenders, and was barefoot.

He laid on the cabana lounge chair flat on his back and gazed up into the screen of a cell phone.  He unusually faced away from the pool.  Later, he pulled out a clipboard and pencil out of his bag.  “A writer” I thought.  He walked over to the lifeguard and showed him the clipboard and made a few gestures with his hands without uttering a sound.  He left and came back carrying a steaming to-go cup.  Morning java I assume, the way most people start their day.